Need dad's advice over relationship troubles

Mar 16 2012

Dear Magenta
I WROTE to you about three months ago in connection with a guy I had a relationship with who shamelessly promised me the world then went back to his wife.
You said I should count my blessings as his wife suffered so much. But what about me?
I am still totally in despair and cannot get over it.
Did he have feelings for me?  Why did he do this? Does my dad in spirit have any advice as these feelings won’t go away?
I have just had a miscarriage
to my husband whom I am not in love with.
Will I ever meet my special soul mate? Please reply as I read your page all the time and it would mean so much.
JA

Dear JA
SPIRIT moves in mysterious ways. Things do not always happen when we want them to or on demand.
You are obviously still besotted with this guy but you have to move on. He obviously has no intentions of coming back to you, you have to put the past firmly behind you.
Your husband obviously loves you and you are treating him with the same contempt this guy treated you with.
If you don’t love him, be honest with him. Take time out on your own to decide what it is you do want in life.
Do you really want to treat your husband as badly as this guy treated both you and his wife?
You know how it feels to be hurt and, at the very least, you owe your husband the dignity of honesty.
I am so sorry to hear of your miscarriage but bringing a child into this mess would only have made things worse for both of you and caused even deeper hurt.
Dad says before you meet your soul mate, honesty and life changes are needed.
Take time to stand on your own two feet and start again with a fresh page – only then can your life move forward.
Dad wants to see you happy but says you need to get your life in order first and the good times will follow.
He says it’s time to put the past where it belongs – firmly behind you.
Don’t worry as the baby is with him, loved in spirit.
Magenta