You mustn't blame yourself

Feb 3 2009 Paisley Daily Express

Dear Magenta

I LOST my mum in 2007. She had been ill for a while in hospital.

I feel really guilty, she just wanted to come home, and we felt we wouldn’t be able to cope.

After that she went downhill really quickly. Her mind wasn’t her own because of the drugs she was on and I didn’t get the chance to say the things I wanted to say.

We got the phone call to say it was time and the family made it to the hospital in time.

I still feel really guilty because she just wanted to come home.

L

Dear L

YOUR mum is at peace and happy in spirit with two ladies in the mother/grandmother connection, and a gentleman in the father link.

She is also with another lady in the sister/cousin connection, and is surrounded by love.

She wants you to know she understands now it wasn’t possible for her to leave hospital, and I am to tell you not to blame yourself in anyway.

She understands now that she could only receive the medical care she needed in hospital and knows it kept her pain under control, and I am to let you know she is now pain free, and loves and misses you all, she is glad you were all around her at the end, she knew you were there but couldn’t speak to let you know.

She says her passing was peaceful and swift, she literally slipped from this side to the other and felt no pain at the end.

I hope this helps